I recently joined this cool online group "ILuvRizal"
Ok I have a new job in a new location, new friends, new school, new life (I guess) and NO new relationship of course! lol. Im happy even though single ako Im satisfied with my life now.
Take stock of yourself.
Begin by asking yourself which areas of your life and personality need the most work. What changes would you be most proud of, and find most fulfilling? Compose a list of them—five, perhaps, or ten at the most (if you’re really self-critical!). Rank them. Think about how you can go about improving each point.
Build yourself up.
Don’t get discouraged, dwelling too much on the areas you want to improve. Remind yourself of the progress you’ve made thus far in life. Pat yourself on the back for having enough determination to try self-improvement in the first place. You’re on the right track!
How will you get there?
It’s not enough to decide where you want to go in terms of self-esteem; it’s more important to ask how you’re going to get there. Also, who can help get you there? Who can you trust for help, and for counsel, and even for a shoulder to cry on, if you have a temporary setback?
Counter-attack.
Tired of suffering the blows of fate? Tired of feeling like the football of the gods? Go on the counter-attack! Take action! Formulate a battle-plan, and assert yourself. You can make things happen. You can dish it too, instead of just absorbing blows.
Spread the wealth.
Self-esteem is something of incomparable value. At the same time, it’s something you’ve got to give in order to get. The more you build up the people around you, the more that same enthusiasm and confidence will reflect back on you. Spread that sense of optimism and excitement to every member of your team.
Branch out.
Extend your sphere of influence, and allow yourself to be influenced by interesting and stimulating new people, as you become a member of new organizations and interest groups. Find people who share your passions, and exchange ideas.
Engage in extra-curricular activities.
Take up a new side project, something you’ll enjoy. Make it something you’ll find relaxing, and yet exhilarating at the same time. Something that will improve you and make you a more well-rounded person. Perhaps it’ll be a hobby or club or recreational activity.
Never stop learning.
Don’t allow your thinking to stagnate. Join a class, on some topic you’re interested in—even if it’s something not directly connected with, say, your career, or your primary goal in life. As long as you’re passionate about it, you’ll benefit from this intellectual stimulation. Its positive effects on your main interests may surprise you.
Count your blessings.
Never forget to remind yourself of how blessed and, ultimately, how happy you really are. Consider it an added bonus if your dreams come true; if they don’t, right away at least, you’ll enjoy the challenge, at the very least.
I know na Im not that type of person na mahilig sumali sa mga groups and I know that I dn't have enough time to mingle around and stay active online with them, however I find this group very refreshing....
I met a lot of good and fun people and yeah Im enjoying my stay here! I hope lumaki pa ang group nato para mas masaya..... and I hope hindi ako I banned for not having time to visit this group's thread hehe. (I know they won't hehe)
Ok I have a new job in a new location, new friends, new school, new life (I guess) and NO new relationship of course! lol. Im happy even though single ako Im satisfied with my life now.
although syempre mas masarap yung may honey bunch luvsy doodles (terms of endearment ng two cheesy friends ko) Im kinda not thinking bout it now.....
I dn't know why pero lately ang dami kong friends na:
1. depperessed kasi they dont have any partners...ang dull daw ng life..
(anu ba yun!? hehe) talaga bang ganun?? or nasanay lang sila ng may partner to depend on?
2. deppressed kasi iniwan ng bf/gf... pathetic daw sila... (pangit ako, mas deserving yung pinalit sakin and all of those crappy stuff)
I believe na we dn't actualy need to have a partner to be happy in this life eh... I mean there are so many fun things out there! you have your friends and family to spend time with... try to appreciate the things around you and stop thinking na loser ka for being single....yup it is hard to fight loneliness... ^_^ but kung makakahanap ka ng ibang bagay to divert that loneliness magiging happy ka at blooming pa! :p who knows dahil sa"fun spirit" that you have makakilala ka pa ng susunod mong partner... ^_^ I posted these things not just for my friends, para din po to sa inyong mga readers...I know some of you are experiencing this right now..... be happy ok?! ^_^ I made a list of things that you can do to help urself grow and boost your self esteem... I hope this will come handy....
Take stock of yourself.
Begin by asking yourself which areas of your life and personality need the most work. What changes would you be most proud of, and find most fulfilling? Compose a list of them—five, perhaps, or ten at the most (if you’re really self-critical!). Rank them. Think about how you can go about improving each point.
Build yourself up.
Don’t get discouraged, dwelling too much on the areas you want to improve. Remind yourself of the progress you’ve made thus far in life. Pat yourself on the back for having enough determination to try self-improvement in the first place. You’re on the right track!
How will you get there?
It’s not enough to decide where you want to go in terms of self-esteem; it’s more important to ask how you’re going to get there. Also, who can help get you there? Who can you trust for help, and for counsel, and even for a shoulder to cry on, if you have a temporary setback?
Counter-attack.
Tired of suffering the blows of fate? Tired of feeling like the football of the gods? Go on the counter-attack! Take action! Formulate a battle-plan, and assert yourself. You can make things happen. You can dish it too, instead of just absorbing blows.
Spread the wealth.
Self-esteem is something of incomparable value. At the same time, it’s something you’ve got to give in order to get. The more you build up the people around you, the more that same enthusiasm and confidence will reflect back on you. Spread that sense of optimism and excitement to every member of your team.
Branch out.
Extend your sphere of influence, and allow yourself to be influenced by interesting and stimulating new people, as you become a member of new organizations and interest groups. Find people who share your passions, and exchange ideas.
Engage in extra-curricular activities.
Take up a new side project, something you’ll enjoy. Make it something you’ll find relaxing, and yet exhilarating at the same time. Something that will improve you and make you a more well-rounded person. Perhaps it’ll be a hobby or club or recreational activity.
Never stop learning.
Don’t allow your thinking to stagnate. Join a class, on some topic you’re interested in—even if it’s something not directly connected with, say, your career, or your primary goal in life. As long as you’re passionate about it, you’ll benefit from this intellectual stimulation. Its positive effects on your main interests may surprise you.
and do not forget to:
Count your blessings.
Never forget to remind yourself of how blessed and, ultimately, how happy you really are. Consider it an added bonus if your dreams come true; if they don’t, right away at least, you’ll enjoy the challenge, at the very least.
3 comments:
Wow! tinamaan ata ako dito sa posting mo kuya... lol. thanks sa mga tips...my friends here from davao love you're blogsite! and sana makagawa din ako ng sariling blogsite in the future
xoxo,
nicole
^_^ ganun ba nicole?? I hope makatulong yung mga tips ko sayu at sa mga friends mo ^_^
Salamat po for visiting my blogsite, all the way from Davao? wheeew (Cool)
I hope makagawa ka na din ng blogsite mo.. It's really therapeutic.. TC! ^_^
Relationships are integral part of our lives, it can teach us and make us grow, but then again i say its only, integral, not detrimental, because we may have relationship but it doesnt mean its the only thing that can make us whole/happy/contented/whatever.
"No one can hurt you without your consent" - anonymous
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